January 2011
1 post
Mechanics of Attachment
One way that people become more attached to each other is that once you have shared some story or information about your life with someone (a friend, lover, etc.) whenever there is an update to that story or a change in the status of what you have shared, you want to share the update with the person who already knows the back story. It doesn’t really work to retell the whole story to someone...
Personal thoughts on how to decide if you should...
This is not my problem. Left to my own devices I don’t think I’d get hung up on this atall but this woman keeps asking me if I want to be an artist and every time she does it spins me around for about two days.
The problem has two competing angles in my head. One is the idea that to be a professional you should make your money from the art and the opposing thought is to question “why should my...
June 2009
13 posts
Luck
What is luck? Getting things that you don’treally deserve. How to be lucky: 1 Be irresponsible to increase your undeservingness. 2 Notice and appreciate the luck when it happens. Luck is only luck when it registers, otherwise it is just stuff that happens. 3 Accept the luck. Don’t throw your luck away and don’t immediately change what you want away from what has fallen in your...
Act On It
Often you know what you want or need but you are not ready to act on that knowledge. so the bad thing to do is vacilate about what you know, going back and forth about your decision until you are confused and your deciciveness is worn down. People often do this in relationships or jobs. They know the person isn’t right for them but they aren’t ready to leave the relationship so they vacilate and...
Mystical
things only seem mystical when you are personally removed from the organic way they evolved. If you are in tune with something it seems natural, not mystical.
Age
as you get old you must fight not to settle from art into craftmanship.
Striving
The common interest and focus of discussion among my friends and me is the space between what we can imagine and what we can manage.
I can be
Unhappy with my life. But happy to be alive.
Make the World Better
By giving well placed compliments!
Negotiating Silences
Ask for what you want and then wait while looking at the person paitently. Leave that long silence! If they say no just ask again and give any reason and then be quiet and look at the person. The most important parts are the long silences, they’ll get you what you want.
Body
Do not bodysurf when it is too dark to see the waves. It turns out that wave assessment is mostly visual. Without your seeing them the waves may crush you.
Compliment
A great compliment is to tell spmeone is “You are special.”
Cuidado
If you know that someone is untrustworthy but sexy don’t offer to rendez vous with her because she will use your comeon to show off to her friends.
Roommates
When you have to get a new roommate or generally be a landlord, post the ad early and respond to every inquiry. Get it done early to find the best person.
Be quiet + listen
The Exec Dir of Steptoe (a large law firm) hung up on me. We were both speaking at the same time and I was trying to tell him that I couldn’t give him any references for our product (due to our confidentiality policy) but I would try to give him a money back guarantee. He was trying to talk at the same time. Here is what his email response to my apology said:
Mr. Ludman, you need to learn to...